3six5dates

Four women in four cities take on 365 dates between them. Follow their adventures and misadventures.

Ms. Shanghai – Ginger wRong Chen

“I took my diamond to the pawnshop, but that don’t make it junk.” Leonard Cohen

Dating History

In Junior High, I fell in love with a man who was more than 10 years older than me. He spent years waiting for me to grow up. This was the only period of time in my life where I was eager to grow older.

University consisted of a few college boys. The highlights being one, a Last-Tango-in-Paris-style relationship with another older man (maybe I have a complex?) and two, a gangster-turned-would-be-politician boyfriend (same-age as me this time) who charmed me with his fascinating mix of raw attitude and diplomatic eloquence.

After graduation, I found myself normally dating the artist-type. Some relationships have been longer (more than a year), some are shorter (one or two months).

Why are you single right now?

I’ve never been in a relationship based on the idea of “let’s try to work things out so we can get married and build a family.”

No, they’ve been more like “let’s get together and have fun while we enjoy each other’s company. Who cares how long it will last. If it’s gone, it’s gone.”

This is who I am – I love my life. And when I am in the relationship, I love the man to the bone. Sure, some of you may be thinking that I won’t have many years to enjoy life like this. Perhaps you are right, but that’s the price I pay for being me.

Why are you participating in 3six5dates?

Good stories turn me on.

Good storytelling makes me hot.

Good men make me high.

100 dates packaged in words can easily make me fly.

And you know what, I also want to know whether this type of self-exposé writing can be done honestly and gracefully?

Dream Partner

  • Chemistry (This is the most important. Without it, other points in this checklist are all worthless to me)
  • Romantic (I don’t even mind if he is a bit too dramatic)
  • Great sex
  • Capacity to Love (I mean really love and not just knowing a few lines and tricks. He doesn’t have to love me that deeply, but there must be potential.)
  • Strong Character
  • Smarter than me

What do you believe is the biggest challenge for you to surrender your single status?

Finding my dream partner will be the challenge. If and when I am not lucky enough to find him, then I will need to be willing to compromise.


Ginger’s Career Bio

Ginger started her career in journalism but found her voice coming out much stronger through storytelling.

“I see them as two different approaches of picturing our lives with abstract symbols, but stemming from the same roots. I believe every piece of fiction is built on something realistic, and every joke is based on something painfully true.”

Her talent as a short story writer was recognized recently with the publication of her pieces in HALiterature Books:

1. Party like it’s 1984 – short stories from the peoples’ republic of. Story titled: “hOur Room” (read excerpt).

2. Middle Kingdom Underground – stories of what lies below. Story titled: “Good Old Days” .

Her other short stories can be found on haliterature.com or if you lucky enough to live in Shanghai, her opinion pieces on topics outside of love, sex and relationships can be read in the newspaper “Global Times” and lifestyle magazine “City Weekend“.

Ginger’s talents go beyond writing, and you can sometimes catch her on stage at the “Spoken Word” performances produced by ZMACK.

So…what do you think of Ginger’s Bio? She’s definitely not your oriental wall-flower!

Are you anything like her or do you know anyone like her?

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