From the very first night we met, Mr. Not Just Another Guy was special to me.

Somehow, two nights ago, he got through my I-don’t-hook-up-with-guys-so-soon wall. I felt comfortable with him from the start – in a platonic way.

He was the nice guy a girlfriend and I met at the club, partied with all night, and took to the diner at 5 a.m.

When I least expected it, we kind of… sort of… you know… hooked up.

And then, he asked me on a date

So, I met him for drinks at the W, which he instinctively knew was my favorite hotel chain, fully aware of the challenge that would await me:

He is going to want to get physical, and I do not.

The truth was, I was somewhat intoxicated the other night and I was not acting like my usual self!

I am way over the “hooking up” of my college days, because I just do not think it is any way to start a serious relationship. I try not to judge people, but I find frequent random hook-ups to be cheap and counterproductive for the girl who truly wants to keep a guy long term.

P.S. If you know me by now, you know I do not come cheap!  Now I have to enlighten Mr. Not Just Another Guy.

Our time at the bar was as great as can be. We already looked like a cute couple – lost in conversation, stealing kisses every now and then.

“Take care of this guy,” the bartender said to me, as we walked out.

I just might…

But then, when we shared a cab back to our apartments, he wanted me to get off at his stop.

“Come home with me,” he said, after aggressively throwing himself on me and shoving his tongue down my throat.

Ugh, do not really want to make out in front (or technically, ‘in back’) of the cab driver.

I pulled away.

“What’s wrong?” he asked.

“I need to tell you something. I will tell you later,” I said as the cab pulled up in front of his building.

He texted about his dying of “suspense”.

“I want to take things slow and don’t want to feel pressured…” I texted back.

“I like that. You are so adorable. I want to be honest. I don’t want to be looked at as some other guy who takes you on a date for your project – because I’m not just another guy,” he wrote.

Sounds fabulous, but is it too good to be true?

If I push him away again will he feel rejected and lose interest?

What do you think? Can a girl really “be hard to get” after she already hooked up with a guy?

Does pressing rewind in a relationship after you already pressed fast forward generally have a good outcome?

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